Speaking Overview

Mona Barbera is an experienced workshop leader, seminar leader, and speaker. She offers clarity and connection with her audience, warmed by years of experience helping couples and teaching psychotherapy. Participants say she is smart, passionate, and has plan of action.

Keynotes, presentations, seminars, couples workshops - for couples and couples therapists - on keeping love alive, getting through the rough spots with connection and fun, and applying Internal Family Systems^sm to couples

Next presentation: Friday, May 21, 2010 NJAAMFT, Princeton, NJ  - afternoon workshop: Internal Family Systems and Couples Therapy

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Feedback: Dangerous and Divine

What if feedback between partners could be like a beautiful melody between two people who know each other so well? What if it didnít have to lead to arguments, attacks, defensiveness or distance?

Attend this presentation and you will find out:
• What feedback is and why it's dangerous in couples
• What you must do before you give feedback to your partner
• What you must do after you give feedback to your partner

Learning Materials:
Chapter 10 from Bring Yourself to Love
Giving Better Back DVD

Note: Each presentation is custom designed for your group. Descriptions are general and waiting to be customized for you.

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Keep Love Alive by Choosing the Challenge

There is life after romance, but it depends on understanding and meeting the particular challenges your mate brings you.

Attend this presentation and you will find out:
• Romance ends - challenges begin
• It's not how hard the challenge is - it's how you meet it
• The three main relationship challenges and how to meet them
• Who you choose is how you grow

Learning Materials:
Chapter 7 from Bring Yourself to Love

Note: Each presentation is custom designed for your group. Descriptions are general and waiting to be customized for you.

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All About Giving Better Back - The Way to Surprising Moments of Connection and Intimacy

You don't have to respond in kind when your partner is angry, critical, or distant. You can give back better than you are getting, and interrupt negative cycles. Youíll feel better inside yourself, and you'll be doing your part to create joy, gratitude, and surprising love.

Attend this presentation and you will learn:
• Why do I have to be the one to give better back?
• What to do when you're just as angry, frustrated, defensive, or distant as your mate
• How to turn the worst couples moments into surprising connection
• What gets in the way ñ the firefighters within you
• You don't have to learn anything new, speak carefully, or push away your own angry reactions
• You'll never be a doormat
• Giving Better Back in the peaceful way to know if a relationship is over

Learning Materials:
Chapter 6 from Bring Yourself to Love
Giving Better Back DVD

Note: Each presentation is custom designed for your group. Descriptions are general and waiting to be customized for you.

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You and Your Parts - Introduction to Internal Family Systems

Internal Family Systems offers you the means to bring your true self to loving relationship. IFS teaches us that we can welcome and use everything within us, avoid being blinded by intense reactions, and find unforeseen creative responses to our most difficult challenges.

Attend this presentation and you will learn:
• All parts are good
• The eight signs of Self energy
• Managers, Firefighters, and Exiles: the three kinds of parts within us all
• What Firefighters really need (hint: they don't really need to attack your mate!)
• Your Exiles donít need to suffer anymore
• Curiosity and the simple way to freedom

Learning Materials:
Chapters 1-5 from Bring Yourself to Love
Richard Schwartz demonstration DVD

Note: Each presentation is custom designed for your group. Descriptions are general and waiting to be customized for you.

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