Give back more calm, connection, compassion, clarity, confidence, courage, creativity, and curiosity than you are getting.
Don’t think this means “say nice things.”
It means to pay attention to how you are responding, regardless of what your partner is doing, and respond with better energy than you are getting.
Watch a video on giving better back below!
Scenario Two shows how things can often go wrong in a couple interaction. You will see that the figure on the right is innocently standing there, and the figure on the left communicates blame and shame. You’ll see the figure on the right giving back just as bad as he got.
Scenario One starts the same way, but the figure on the right gives better back. See what happens!
The title “Projective Redemption” comes from an academic article by Mona Barbera, Ph.D. in the journal Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy. It’s just a fancy way to say giving better back.
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Do you mean courage or “corageous”?
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